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Sculpting

I read that the elders are like mountains around us, capped in white snow, and that we walk in their valley, growing slowly to become mountains ourselves. It's a beautiful metaphor.

There is one thing I've learned about sculpting on a potter's wheel; it's that you have to touch lightly. You can't force the pot into shape while it's alive on the wheel in an instant. You press it gently, gradually suggesting a change to it. In the end, the pot might not even notice your influence; it may think the change was its own idea. This is fine with you. You actually want that; the pot has to live with the shape. Better that it feel peace with each curve and groove. Looking at a pot, no one sees the potter.

I thought of mother and father today.

Hello, friends. How are you? Did you think of your parents today?

-k

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I'm following up from yesterday's post; yours truly has plenty of spare time at his disposal lately.

Let's talk about the appearance

Just like the guys, proper grooming is crucial. Hairstyle, trimmed nails, and a little make up. Keyword: little. You are a woman, so for God's sake, have pride in what he gave you. If you want a boy to come back for repeated business, you don't want to shock him in the morning after the shag when your face is bare. Accentuate your features with the accessories; don't try to radically alter it. That's not what they are for.

Exercises. Everyone knows the benefit, but most severely underestimate what it brings. It's good for every type of body. If you are small, it helps with the muscle tone and definition. If you are ehem… for political correctness, large, it increases muscle while decreasing other, ehem….. unwanted types of tissue. A few youngsters like to play the dancing game in Vincom as a form of exercise. While it does give you a good cardio workout, it's not likely to build muscle tissue; it's also good for losing weight. Play a sport, or sign up for a gym.

Although I understand it is not something that can be given (i.e you have to earn it through other mean, not my blog), I want to note that self-confidence is the difference between a female wearing clothes, and a female making the clothes she wears look good. Take a female with sexy outfit but no self-confidence, it will not look good. Take a female with self-confidence, and the things she wears magically look good. Always. There is no need to dress like a whore, unless your goal is to shove it in the face of your rival girlfriends.

Have some confidence. If you don't, then who do?

So, exercises. Science proved that it brings positive health effects, including the release of chemicals like endorphins which improve your mood, attitude and outlook on life. In short, it helps your self-esteem by improving your mental opinion of yourself. "True story", to quote Barney Stinson.

If you have a large body, it's generally advised that you wear large shirts to "absorb" a bit of movement. This is probably trivial knowledge, but I recite to make the post self-contained and complete.

If you have a small body, contrary to YOUR belief, sexiness is not defined by breast size. Don't agonize about it. Tall or short, a fitting dress to show the curves you do have, it doesn't have to be low cut, or revealing.

That's said. Now if you have any guy friends who is not in a relationship, ask one of them out if you are interested. The reason: if you are reading my blog for advices on improving your romantic activities, the guys you hang out are probably the kind that need to "wait for the right moment" to ask you out. Remember: guys have much lower standard than gals. As long as she is smart, kind, and not hideous, a guy will usually be interested. It is normally up to the female, to decide what to build.

Now, a little bit about diet. If you have a few extra pounds, a change in diet leading to smaller amount of your daily intake, is far superior to any quick weight loss plan you read in a magazine. Why? Because most advertised diet has a major flaw. The weight that is lost is just water weight, and as soon as the diet is stopped, they return.

But here is the important piece. While research is still being done, but it has been suggested that a person's weight (and/or figure) is decided more by genetics than anything else, which give a valid explanation for why large bodies revert to being large, and skinny ones that gain weight promptly lose it. Remember: some guys want to fuck Scarlet Johansson, and some guys are devoted to Keira Knightley's flat chest. To most guys, the best structure is not just fat or skinny, but that which is natural. Vietnamese shouldn't be more than 130lbs. It's actually part of our Constitution. True story.

That's all I have. Yet, on the event everything goes well, and you and the charming lad are going to share a bed at night, then let me offer one more tip. By all mean, be active. Do something. As a woman, if you are not a horrible being, you have the charms to make the blood rush through the vein of your partner, so if someone wants you, you want to get active role in what you are doing. Staring blankly at your partner looking serious and silent will beat the most good-spirited lad off his horse. Participate and say what you want, make noise, whatever, you don't need to fake it, let the feeling take over, and don't freeze like a deer in front of truck lights. Good luck.

Hello friends, I hope you are still well. Aren't you?

-k

Was out, now back in and some tips for female readers.

I'm back at the keyboard; it looks like I don't have to abandon this place in pursuit of my academic goal. Lately I frequently find myself having nothing to do with my hands at night (feel free to insert your joke and move on). I have two theories, either I, your correspondent here, overestimated the difficulties of his work or I underestimated the awesomeness of his craftsmanship when I put the last nail on the coffin for this place four months ago. The answer is left as an exercise for the readers.

The weather here got better. Today is warm and no more snow they say. I stare at the screen a lot these days, too many things firing off in my head for me to grasp. I make progress on my project, but death still comes to us all. Nothing I work on is so serious as to change that. I'm sorry if this disappoints you.

Believe it or not, in my standard I actually worked hard, or tried to. I hardly wrote anything for the last few months, except a few occasions when the thoughts were too strong to resist jolting down a few paragraphs in my journal. It bothers me when I think about it. And so, even though I'm not amused by my own in and out, start and stop, I write again. But I'm comforted by the knowledge that it doesn't matter and no one really notices one way or another. You don't mind, do you?

Meanwhile, serious events happen in the larger world. Revolution and such, round and round of violence. I try to be as uninformed about these things as I can be, to avoid become lost in something larger than myself, to get outside and cannot get back in.

I'm going to stop talking about myself now, and to go into the drops of wisdom I know many of you consider the reason to visit this blog, hehe.

In my spare time lately, I've developed a habit to check out the teen website kenh14. Today there is this article. While I generally agree with the article, I think it doesn't help the female of my generations as much as the. For the rest of this post, if you are a female, I will assume one of the following: a) you have average look. Attractive females have better things to do, like making themselves more attractive, than to read my blog and b) you are not superficial.

Note: this will not help you find Mr. Right. It will, however, tell you how to get men in general to like you, and if things go well, sleep with you.

First some foundations:

Understand: Being a female, the business of dating and romance is far easier for you, than it is for most males.

If your goal is just sex, you will get it. But you need to be honest with yourself: if you aren't the best catch, don't be disappointed when the coolest boy in your circle turned you down. A few lucky men can afford to be picky, most of us can't. There are plenty of males, who would not turn down a chance at sex, regardless of your problems. With sex on the line, it's a smooth sailing.

Now, if you are looking for a relationship. It seems that the cooler the guy, the more likely he is arrogant and uncaring. The sweet and romantic ones, unfortunately are less likely to be physically outstanding. But don't let this discourage you. I understand some of you may have had bad experiences in the past. But you shouldn't blame this on the men alone. If you chose to stick with a guy even though he was a jerk, you are, well there is no better way to say it, an idiot and deserved what you got. You need to know what motivates men.

Remember: Men have a very small set of needs: Food, Sleep, Sex, Glory and whatever their hobby is be it gamble, drugs, car (unless it's also Sex). That's all. Men often don't think about stuffs that are not related to these. Men do care about emotions, yes, but we are light year behind you on this, and if we are open enough to talk about them to you, most likely we are talking about it in bed together. Nearly all men want to be the Alpha male. It means they want other men to respect them in awe. Sex and hobbies (i.e car, clothes) are often what they use to chase this goal.

Next, I will talk about how you should present yourselves, diet and exercises tips.

I'm going to tend my steak. It's dinner time.

Hello, friends. I hope everything is well with you.

Cheers,

-k